Maybe the problem is the familiarity with how the Gallardo handles, when you need to push it to the limit. I had very poor opportunities to really drive my Gallardo hard, until I did the Italiafest at Moroso Speedway road course, where you could drift around turns, go up to 150mph in a long stright, then into a near panic slowdown, prior to a 35 mph turn you had to be back on the gas for...and then many s turns in a row, etc, etc.
Particularly having constant opportunities to perform "near drifts" in turns, gives you a feeling for how to set up and carry through the turns with this car...and I do believe you need this with the Gallardo, because it's differences with a 2 wheel drive car are so subtle.

After a few tanks of gas doing this, the car starts to gain a predictability and personality for how it does best at handling at a maximum performance level....going at normal American road speeds and roads, you just don't gain this familiarity with what works best for the Gallardo. It does not drive like other 2 wheel drive sports cars...it is quite different, and I think better. Initially you might think it is more clumsy or lacking feedback, but after really pushing the car for extended period, I don't think anyone could say this.

After 3 tanks of gas on a good racing road course, the 4 wheel drive should become an "unfair advantage" for you, over 2 wh drive cars.

I will be doing a lot more with my Gallardo at Roebling Road and at Road Atlanta, and one of my business partners has a new Ferrari f 430....At Moroso, he was following me with the 360 he used to have, and ended up "frisbeeing" behind me after a chicane the 360 could not handle close to as well as the Gallardo. I look forward to spending a few tanks of gas at each of these courses in Ga, as well as seeing how these two exotics do versus my Winston cup car.

Regards,
Dan